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USE COLD READING TO PICK UP GIRLS


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Cold Reading is something that becomes really popular among pick-up artists (PUA). PUA are experts in the art of seduction. The reason these PUA love the cold reading techniques in their efforts to seduce female, and/or male, is that it is a great way to demonstrate value, building up rapport fast, and it’s EFFECTIVE and FUN!

The term building rapport refers to the actions you take to let a woman feel comfortable with you. People tend to like be with people that are like themselves. So usually the more you have in common, the faster the rapport will develop. Therefore finding similarities is an easy and quick way of building rapport. This is something that can be really trivial, like originating from the same country. You probably ever experienced being on a holiday and finally meeting someone from the same country. You will likely tend to hang out with them and have long conversations. Even though it might be the case that normally you wouldn’t spend time with them. That’s rapport!

If you haven’t read the post Basic Cold Reading Techniques, it is highly recommended doing that first. It will help you to see patterns which will make it easier for you to become a master in the field. For a direct link to the blog post click here.

So when you are out in a club, birthday party or in a coffee shop and have been talking to a woman you want to build trust and comfort with, a great and fun way for both of you to build rapport, is by using cold reading as a way to find out what you have in common. What makes cold reading techniques such a great tool for doing this is that people usually won’t resist cold reads since they are ambiguous, yet sound true to the listener. Secondly, you will give a feeling that you truely understand her, so she will open up more to you. Third, you will quickly find out the things you have in common, and by pointing these out you’ll build rapport quickly with her. You will be able to ‘connect’ with her on a deeper level. An awesome personality excersise which is fun and accurate is called “The Cube”. You should really check that post out and try it.

The best way to start off building rapport is by using a technique covered in the “Basic Cold Reading Techniques” post, which is observation. With a trained eye it is amazing how much information most people give without realizing. Really start and train yourself in the habit of observation! I can’t stress enough about this. An easy way to practice this is by observing other people in a coffeeshop or while sitting on a bench in the parc. Pay attention to what people wear, what kind of shoes, jewelry, kind of hairstyle, did she put a lot of effort into it?, etc. etc.

The first cold-reading technique is using different statements (General statements, Barnum Statements and Rainbow Ruse for example). In the rapport building phase you want to have her feel like you really understand her so she will open up to you. You need to be a very good listener and when you hear a commonality, you can point it out to her so she realizes it. Utilize a mixture of general statements and subtle leading questions to gain information on the subject. You can do this by either verbal or non-verbal means, such as body language, facial expressions or the tone of your voice. Play around with this so you become a master at this. Below follows a list of the 11 most commonly used cold reads by psychics. It is adviced to learn them by heart since you really won’t need any others. Mix and match them based on the situation and context:

1) “You have a strong need for others to like and admire you”

2) “You have a tendency to be critical of yourself”

3) “You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage”

4) “Your past relationships have presented problems for you”

5) “You can be disciplined and controlled on the outside, and worrisome and insecure on the inside”

6) “You sometimes doubt your own decisions”

7) “You like change and variety and don't like to be hemmed in by restrictions and limitations”

8) “You are independent minded and need proof before accepting others opinions”

9) “You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others”

10) “At times you are extroverted and sociable, while at others you are introverted and reserved”

11) “Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic”

These statements can easily be opend with “You know, I’ve got an intuition about you..”. It is not important that you use the exact wording in these sentences, but the structure is important. The key to all cold-reading is to focus on the postive. Everybody would rather hear positive things about themselves than negative. So try to spin things in a positive direction whenever you have a chance. That will get her to say “yes” more often.

A second cold read technique that is effective in pickup is more a mini-cold read. This is one for building rapport but used to build attraction. Basically these are playful teasing comments that often don’t make any sence at all, but are a great way to escalate sexual tension through banter. Examples are:

(1). "You and I would never get along." (2). "You're a bad girl, my mother warned me about girls like you." (3). "You're a shy girl aren't you? You guys need to get her out more." (4). "You're like Velma on Scooby Doo, always trying to figure things out." (5). "You guys are trouble."

A word of warning is needed tho. If you do this at the wrong time it destroys the rapport you so carefully have build.

To summarize: Using cold reading for seduction is powerful because it provides a great way to build trust and comfort. By deploying these techniques it is possible to quickly get to know a lot about eachother. Which is great since it allows you to find out allong the way that this might be that she is the one you don’t really want to spend time with. You will have saved a lot of time, and disapointment, finding this out at an early stage.

Practice these techniques and be amazed!

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